You do not need to be perfect, you just need to be ready.
What if I said the wrong thing? What if I made things worse?
That fear—the worry of getting it wrong—can be overwhelming. It is one of the reasons so many parents delay this conversation, hoping the right words will come at the perfect moment.
Here is what I have learned:
it is not about having the perfect script—it is about showing up with clarity, love, and honesty.
That is why I created Navigating with the Heart.
Not just as a coach or therapist, but as a parent who has sat in that same place, wrestling with the same questions.
This moment might feel uncertain now, but with the right tools and support, it can become one of understanding, strength, and connection.
There is a way through this conversation that feels clear, grounded, and honest.
I remember the moment I had to tell my children about my divorce. I sat at the kitchen table, convinced the words would come more easily if I wrote them down first. Instead, I stared at a blank page, my coffee growing cold beside me.
I wanted to be honest without causing unnecessary pain, and reassuring without making promises I could not keep. I wanted to be strong while still allowing myself to feel. I second-guessed every sentence before I even wrote it.
How to plan difficult conversations with your children, or other young people in your family
How to decide where the best place to have the conversation
Within my community you will have the chance to ask questions
How to handle conflict whether with your ex or with your children
How to regulate your own emotions to be the parent your children need
Within the community you will get 8 live group sessions with Eve
A clear roadmap of your child's developmental needs so you can meet them where they are
Tools to manage both their feelings and yours
Practical conversation frameworks aimed at
building trust and onpoing communication
When Samantha first came to me, she was paralysed with fear. Her 8-year-old son, Jack, had stopped talking about the divorce entirely. He refused to engage in conversations and started withdrawing from his friends.
When Samantha first came to me, she was paralysed with fear. Her 8-year-old son, Jack, had stopped talking about the divorce entirely. He refused to engage in conversations and started withdrawing from his friends.
Samantha felt helpless. She told me, “I just do not know what to say without making it worse.”
She knew she needed to support Jack, but every time she thought about starting the conversation, her own anxiety took over.
What if she said the wrong thing? What if she made him feel worse?
Through our work together, Samantha learned that silence often increases anxiety rather than easing it. We focused on gentle, safe ways to open up the conversation—ways that allowed Jack to feel heard, without pressure.
Within two weeks, something shifted. Jack started asking his own questions. He began to share little things—first about his day, then about his feelings. He felt safe enough to talk because he knew his feelings were welcome.
This is why I created Navigating with the Heart – How to Talk to Children About Separation and Divorce.
Struggling to find the right words to explain what is happening.
Worried about your child’s emotional well being through this change.
Unsure how to handle difficult conversations with your child.
So overwhelmed by your own emotions you find it hard to talk to your child calmly.
Thinking your child will become confused by mixed messages from you and your ex.
"I thought I was doing the right thing," she said, her voice tight. "I told them everything. I thought if I explained it properly, they wouldn’t feel lost. But now they just look overwhelmed and anxious. I think I made it worse."
"I didn’t want to bring it up," he admitted. "I thought if I ignored it, they’d be fine. But now I can see how much they’ve been holding in, and I don’t know how to undo that."
ant to bring it up," he admitted. "I thought if I ignored it, they’d be fine. But now I can see how much they’ve been holding in, and I don’t know how to undo that."
Real words from loving parents, just like you,
caught between fear and uncertainty
8 Pre-Recorded video modules and PDF workbooks so you can work at your speed
Community help, support and webinars that you can watch on all subjects around talking to children about separation and divorce
Audio files to support different learning styles, and many other resources that will be added over time
3 months of membership in a private parenting support group—where I host live Q&A sessions to answer your specific questions.
They imagine it is something for mums—something emotional, something
they are expected to already know how to handle.
But let me tell you this:
Over half of my parenting support clients are fathers.
Fathers who are deeply worried for their children.
Fathers who want to say the right thing but feel unsure where to begin.
Fathers who feel shut out or overwhelmed.
Fathers who want to do better, even if they were never shown how.
Just like anyone else, when we feel vulnerable or out of our depth, we tend to shut down, get defensive, or step away. It is human. But it is not what children need—and it is not what dads truly want.
That is why this course is written with men in mind.
It is calm. Clear. Practical.
No jargon. No judgement.
If you are a dad , granddad, stepdad—or any man who cares for a child—you are welcome here.
Eve Stanway is an Accredited Divorce & Break-Up Coach, Psychotherapist, author, speaker, and expert in difficult conversations. She supports parents through the emotional and practical challenges of family turmoil, divorce, and separation, helping them feel more confident and empowered.
With deep expertise in parenting, co-parenting, and managing toxic or high-conflict relationships, Eve helps clients heal from family trauma and improve communication.
Her approach focuses on addressing difficult conversations that often go unspoken, preventing unresolved tensions from escalating into greater conflict—especially when children are involved.
After 25 years as a Psychotherapist and Professional Development Coach, Eve became a Divorce Coach to provide the support she wished she had. Her personal and professional experience has reinforced one essential truth: Difficult conversations open the door to change.
8 Pre-Recorded video modules
8 Workbooks with exercises
Audio files to support different learning styles
3 months of membership in a private parenting support group—where I host live Q&A sessions to answer your specific questions.
8 Pre-Recorded video modules
8 Workbooks with exercises
Audio files to support different learning styles
3 months of membership in a private parenting support group—where I host live Q&A sessions to answer your specific questions.
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